Restless Avoidance

Those who continually sprout their ‘authenticity’ and ‘continual improvement’, are ones that suffer from restless avoidance.

Berlin based behavioural psychologist Dr Lena Hoffmann found that people obsessed with self improvement ‘…don’t want to heal. They want to become someone who never got hurt.”

They grew up believing love had to be earned, so now stillness feels unsafe. If they’re not “fixing” themselves, they feel unworthy.

Hoffmann called it The Berlin Paradox: “The healthiest people aren’t the ones who heal the most, but those who stop seeing themselves as broken.”

Peace isn’t found by changing. Peace is found when you stop running from the parts that you don’t need to fix.

Self-work is sacred, but obsession with it is fear in disguise. Sometimes, “doing the work” means putting the tools down and letting yourself simply exist.

Authenticity is found by finally accepting who you already are. Warts and all.

So, love yourself because you are enough.